An unusual idea for a couple who want something very different for their wedding ceremony is this... Get a wooden box, a bottle of wine (or the alcohol of your choice), and two glasses. Write love notes to each other, explaining your feelings as you prepare to start your new life together as husband and wife. Seal your letter without letting your partner read what you’ve written. During the ceremony, place the love notes inside the wooden box with the wine and glasses. Take turns hammering the box shut.Agree to keep the box sealed until a special anniversary, like your 10th or 20th, unless you hit a rough patch. Then, break open the box, pour the wine, read the letters, and remember what it’s all about. What a wonderful weekend - a wedding on both Saturday and Sunday and what made it so super special was that they were weddings of friends and family. Here the stylish bride and groom arrive after having photos taken to greet their guests in the ballroom of a lovely hotel. The bride looked just like a fairytale princess and her groom, Prince Charming. I am so lucky that I am still very close to my ex-husband's family. Though we divorced and he's remarried I am always included in family events. But what a thrill to be asked to be the celebrant at his brother's wedding! The ceremony and reception were held at the family home and it was a simple but emotion-packed ceremony. Afterwards the bride's sister, who had flown over from Thailand, conducted a Sai Sin ceremony - where guests tie string which has been blessed by monks round the couples' left wrists to bring good luck for their future. It was such a wonderful, relaxed and happy day, with so many special people present. It made me, once again, so thankful that despite divorce we're all good friends. A really lovely couple who only had a very small wedding 14 years ago always intended to have a really special ceremony and reception when they could afford it. Friday was the day! It was the happiest occasion imaginable...so much love, laughter and smiles...beautiful children, a stunning 'bride', a handsome 'groom' and immaculate bridal party...with a ceremony overlooking the ocean. The guest register was a special book I created for them tracing their 14 years together. And did everyone enjoy it? You bet. The couple have just emailed me to say, "We both just wanted to thank you again for the amazing job you did with the ceremony and the book. Everything was perfect." Thank you guys, I enjoyed every single second with you. The groom and groomsmen arrived in immaculate suits and akubra hats - riding high on camels. The bridal party swept along the long dirt road to a specially built rotunda by the Hunter River in an array of perfectly restored Cobb & Co coaches. Apart from some skittish Shetland ponies all went according to plan. A petrol generator ensured music and sound from the PA as the young couple pledged their commitment. And, the final touch of creativity, as a token of her love the bride had her fingerprint etched into her husband's wedding band. Not only do I adore helping create ideal ceremonies for people - I just love being there with them on the day. And when I receive feedback like this, understandably I feel ecstatic! "We were so honoured with your presence, expertise and absolute true passion for what you do...we thank you for the amazing ceremony… really! It exceeded my romantic imagination, which is huge! Everyone commented and complemented on the amazing delivery and structure of the event, how unique it was... you have a niche in the market.” Throughout history roses have held great significance. Monks tended rose gardens in the Middle Ages...there are references to roses in the bible and of course Shakespeare's immortal words were, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." So no wonder some couples chose to include a rose ceremony at their wedding. Red roses stand for sacrifice and love. White roses represents pure spiritual love. A single white rose represents forgiveness and white roses in a bridal bouquet signify a holy union.Twelve roses is considered a complete cycle and therefore represents true love... while nine stand for eternal love. At weddings, engagements and renewal ceremonies it's a lovely idea for the couple to present each other with a rose - either white or red - as a symbol of their love. A lovely idea at a Renewal of Vows ceremony is to ask each guest to bring a candle and to write a one line wish for the couple's future. Then, during the ceremony, each guest lights their candle and reads out their wish...Then the couple can light a candle each and make their recommitment vows. If it's an evening ceremony all the flickering candles makes a dramatic backdrop for the rest of the ceremony. Nearly 30 years ago I got married - but 12 years later we split up. However it took us around eight years to finally fill in the divorce papers. We met up at a Thai restaurant halfway between our two homes and celebrated the form filling with delicious curries and a bottle of wine. I blame the wine on the fact we had to do this THREE times before we managed to tick all the boxes correctly! However they were certainly enjoyable evenings and the location turned out to be quite significant as my ex went on to marry a lovely Thai girl who is happy to share her culinary secrets with me - which saves on Thai restaurants! Another great way that helps a couple to move on after a divorce is with a Divorce Ceremony - a celebration of what was good during the marriage and a way to minimise animosity, helping ensure continued closeness between the couple, their children, family and friends. Anything that helps during the difficult divorce process is surely food for thought? |
AuthorRebecca Skinner is a journalist, editor and writer who is also a civil celebrant, committed to helping people cherish special moments in their lives. From ceremonies with a difference together with books of living memories as a unique memento - to writing life stories - she is the specialist in celebrating life's many chapters. Archives
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